That doesn’t make me feel like an undesirable freak. That doesn’t make me have less value somehow.
![straight guy gay sex story straight guy gay sex story](https://cdn77-pic.xvideos-cdn.com/videos/thumbs169lll/3f/3e/74/3f3e74498a7de4cc77b7132b5d009df8/3f3e74498a7de4cc77b7132b5d009df8.15.jpg)
Besides the two straight guys I’m currently with, I don’t really have hetero male friends these days and that’s okay. I’d like to think that I’ve gotten older and no longer seek out friendships to fulfill a quota or for validation and that’s true. This is about people enjoying people, sexuality not always included. Sometimes I have to catch myself whenever I’m feeling the need to unnecessarily bring attention to my homosexuality because that’s not what this is about. We have nothing to gain from each other other than human connection. Not because they’re straight and I feel as if I’m “one of the boys” but because the straight boys I’m with are good people and the foundation of our friendship is not predicated upon the fact that I like boys and they like girls. You can have the friendship but never forget that you’re different.Īs it happens, I’m in the Hamptons this week with two straight guys, which by my estimate, is the longest time I’ve spent away from any girls or gays. I don’t care! But also: NO HOMO.” You’re always put into your gay place. They’ll be like, “Yes, tell me about this boy you have a crush on. As a reaction to this fear, straight guys will often feel the need to assert their heterosexuality whenever possible. By letting me get close to them, they were making me feel cool and butch, like I was more than my sexuality, like I was one of The Cool Gay Guys.Īnd, of course, there’s this issue of straight men thinking every gay guy wants to sleep with them, which can make the friendship feel… difficult, like there’s always an undertone of desire on my end, even if that is most definitely not the case. I’ve hated myself for it and I’ve hated them! But it wasn’t entirely their fault, no one was really the bad guy here, because I was using them too. I’m very progressive!” Oftentimes, in the friendship, I’ve felt the need to wear my sexuality on my t-shirt, inserting gay jokes whenever possible or testing the comfortability level by being a little bit raunchy. “See? I hang out with gay dudes because I think they’re cool. It’s clear that I’m there to be the gay friend who makes them feel better about themselves for being so open-minded. Throughout my life, I’ve been friends with straight dudes who have treated me like a novelty.
![straight guy gay sex story straight guy gay sex story](https://imggen.eporner.com/4972300/640/480/5.jpg)
This obsession with masculinity and, by extension, straight culture, definitely bleeds into the straight guy/gay guy dynamic. So if you’re the kind of guy who’s never going to be described as “jockish” and you want to feel accepted, being friends with straight guys can often feel like the next best thing.
![straight guy gay sex story straight guy gay sex story](https://i.gr-assets.com/images/S/compressed.photo.goodreads.com/books/1441764324l/26254316._SY475_.jpg)
Why does it give me so much pride when I gain the approval from heterosexual males? Am I that eager to not be perceived or defined as gay? I think it’s just another example of gay men’s aversion to be labeled as “femme.” If you go on any gay male dating/sex site, you’ll see a large percentage of men who are looking for “straight acting guys only.” They identify themselves as jock types and make a point to say they’re not into “femmes.” In the gay world, “femmes” have the least amount of power whereas so-called masculine men possess the most. On the contrary, I think it’s totally screwed up and an obvious indicator of self-loathing. It made me feel more versatile, like I could pass for “straight” and inhabit a heterosexual world more seamlessly than my other “gayer” friends. In the past, I’ve sought out the company of straight men because, in a way, I feel like it validated my masculinity.
![straight guy gay sex story straight guy gay sex story](https://media.s-bol.com/OZgJO5v9W5vp/525x840.jpg)
It’s something that is fetishized and yearned for on both sides. Behind every great gay man, there’s a real desire to have an awesome straight dude (and I don’t mean sexually). For many gay men, having a close straight male friend is akin to capturing the holy grail.